Simplicity Of Friendship

                                                 The title itself may revoke different opinions. Some may feel it is paradoxical. Some may agree half-heartedly. But let me tell you, the title is absolutely true in every case possible.

                                                   Consider your school friends..the really close ones. Most of you would have known them first when you were about three. How much time did it take you to become friends? You would have sat next to each other and possibly played ringa ringa roses and that was it. Your secrets and stuff much later. But then, now you're the best of friends, you still make time to call this person and there is nothing this friend doesn't know about you. That is the first glimpse of friendship that a person gets.

Now when we have to travel far and wide by train, the person you meet everyday on the same compartment becomes your friend. The person who resides in the same building as yours becomes your friend. Why, even people who come on a trip with you become your best friends. Still aren't convinced? Like a friend Sumiran said in one of his blog posts, people when put in the same situation tend to become friends. When you join classes for some subject and you know no one in your batch, you already have a topic to talk about in your hands. You invariably start talking with your neighbour. If you are the shy kind, someone who won't start a conversation, your neighbour will start it for sure.

So, when it is so simple, why do we make it so complicated? The golden rule to have a good friend is be one yourself. And it isn't difficult. Just call them when they are sick, give them a true heart felt compliment, make them smile when they are sad, do those small things you would love people to do for you. And if you think its an effort, believe me you get back those smiles or those sweet words or just the assurance they are there for you, you need nothing more during the whole day. And guess what? They'll do so much more back for you. It is a very obvious fact that friendship is symbiotic, both parties depend on each other. Then why not do your part first?  :).


Birthdays are the best time when your faith is restored that your friends are the most wonderful people after all. Really just when I thought that people have lost all emotions in the rat race, my friends went and did so much, I really believe that's what friends are for. To give you that sense of belonging, remove that sense of insecurity, to make you feel so loved and special, who says you need to be in a relationship to experience all this!


We keep hearing that there are no Sorry's or thank you's in a friendship. Ever wondered why? Cuz you would never do anything to hurt your friend that would make you have to say sorry and when they do something for you which gives you so much happiness , you surely aren't gonna let it go with just a thank you. You would do something really big for their special day .

Another peculiar thing about friendship. Your friends may not be the babes and the dudes of the class but still the moment you look at them and they smile, they are the most adorable people you know. Really, think of one friend you think who doesn't look good...you won't be able to come up with a name. It's such a relief when I realized this,considering (errr...hoping) the same is applicable vice-versa too :P.

The best part about friendship is it brings a smile to your face so easily. Just think about the food you had or a small joke you shared, you'll be smiling on the road with people thinking you are weird. Just see some photograph and you're lost in that happy world already.

You don't search for a person who will not disclose your secrets but for a friend knows certain emotions of yours cannot be understood by others and keep it to themselves. You don't search for a person who has contacts but for friends who knows your potential and will themselves suggest someone who can help you without you saying a word. You don't search for someone who will help you out with assignments and stuff but for friends who will do everything in their means to help you out anyway.Finally, you don't search for someone who will sit next to you in recess so that you aren't alone but for friends who want to sit next to you because they wish to.

The point is we put so many conditions and restrictions on our own selves before "supposedly" selecting a friend. You stop that and you will see a whole new world in front of you. You will find such lovable people you just never realized before. You will find people who you love sooo much and they love you likewise. Friendship is so pure , it depends on nothing but emotions. We are the ones who attach looks, money and every other materialistic attribute to it.

So , its time we go back to our 3 yr old mind set just for this. You will realize, friendship is indeed magical yet simple...

Birthday time!!!

                     It's that time of the year again where the month itself is so special to me. Yes, My birthday is arriving!!! To think of it, there is nothing in a birthday. You are just getting a year older and how narcissistic is it to celebrate your own presence in the world!

But then, birthdays tend to become so much more than that and so wonderful too. For a first, its a day where one person less is sad about the different worries in life most probably. Its a day you smile just because its a day surely not unique, but really special to you. The thought of the birthday is enough to make your day. Your sister waking you up at 12 and wishing you is a memorable thing in itself.

Birthdays in my home have always been very simple. No grand party after I was 3. A reason to buy new clothes. A reason to choose between a chocolate truffle and Black Forest cake. Those calls from your grandparents filled with blessings. Those calls from your cousins which let you talk to them after a very long time.
School was just another day with friends who remember wishing you and no distributing of chocolates cuz its so childish. But I still used to be so happy. No frills, no gifts, just a day which seemed special just because you felt so.


Then in college, I realized the joy of giving a treat. For those of you with raised eyebrows, the treat was shared. (:P) But still, it was my first best birthday of my life with wonderful friends. The treat was a simple one at the very humble Bhavan's canteen, but still as always are the first ones, it is memorable.

Also, came the joy of receiving a gift. Really, the gift is nothing in comparison to the emotion on  the friends' faces when you see the gift and say you love it. The best part is they are so happy to give it( at least they look like it) and also that everyone around you is also so happy in spite of it being only your birthday. Especially when they have planned surprises too. Being one of the people who is at the forefront in planning other birthdays, it is so exciting to plan stuff and wait to see the glee in the birthday boy/girl's eyes on having had so much to look forward to. Every time you see the card or the gifts you were gifted, you can't help but smile at how wonderful a day it was and how lucky you are to have such wonderful friends. Last time, even in my supposed "thank you" speech to my friends, I said they themselves are the best gifts I could have asked for and I couldn't have meant it more.

Even the call at 12 which is usually a conference which extends for hours is a wonderful memory in itself. So much laughter, so much happiness at times. It is really a good thing to celebrate birthdays just for the sake of that momentary happiness.

So, what do I realize while waiting for the birthday while will define my last year of being an teenager? It's one day of the year you can really call yours and not only  get all the attention( which is very rare in general in my case) and you think you are really popular and everyone loves you ( :P) but also enjoy the presence of friends whose presence itself makes you feel loved (in reality :P) and make it the one day where you thought "My life is the best anyone could have asked for." Cheers to life!